Is being a quiet person a bad thing? At the baby shower the other day, one of the guests told me, "You're very quiet aren't you?" I was thinking to myself, "Yeah, especially around people that I really don't know." No offense, but I'm just not that much of a social butterfly when I initially meet people. I'm getting a little bit better at this, but it still is a little difficult for me. My not speaking doesn't mean that I don't want to get involved or that I am uninterested in what's going on, I'm just feeling out the situation. I was always taught that some things are sweeter if they are never spoken (Actually, this was my Gandma's favorite line. She would say this whenever someone said something that was hurtful or just totally out of pocket. As we all know, once you put hurtful words out there, you can't take them back). In some ways, I still think that is true. In school (primary, secondary, and beyond), I've encountered a lot of people that talk just to hear themselves speak. They're saying absolutely nothing, but they figure that it's impressive to speak, even if it's a bunch of crap. My theory (and I'm keepin' it real here): those that talk a lot of shit CANNOT back it up! Point blank. Why is it so necessary to be first to get out the so-called answer, or to say the most crap (cuz that's all it is)? I like for people to show instead of tell. If you are gonna put something out there, have the evidence to back it up. That goes for life and anything else you encounter. I remember in a social theory class I had a year or two ago, there was one woman that would not shut the hell up. Class just would not be complete for her unless she spoke for about 30 minutes (mind you the class was an hour and a half). Sometimes we would have to stay for two hours because of her. Whenever she spoke, you would hear the sighs, see the slouching in the seats, tons of eye rolling -- all the outward signs of frustration. Initially, she would say some really brilliant things, but when she started to get a little crowd response, the nuggets of knowledge turned into nuggets of... well, you get the picture. Oh well, to each their own I guess. (Once again, this isn't about those who are sharing valuable knowledge, just the shit talkers).